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Intellectual
While both men and women love a pretty face, many daters will give an average-looking chap or lady a chance if they possess brains. Even the most physically attractive individuals will be a huge turn off if the only thing they ever read was an eye-chart. Intelligence is incredibly sexy (think Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting or Scarlet Johansson in Lost in Translation). For many daters, individuals who can do long division in their head are more attractive than a cover model. And don't even get us started on people who can natter about quantum physics!!
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Broaden your base of knowledge and experience
To increase your confidence in your thinking skills and your comfort level in dealing with conceptual ideas, expose yourself to a broad range of abstract and philosophical issues. For example, take advantage of opportunities to discuss these different ideas with individuals who you feel have good conceptual thinking skills. Big-brained people are constantly maintaining and sharpening their intellectual skills by tackling complex problems, challenging "obvious truths", and looking at problems from a number of angles and trying to come up with unique solutions.
Challenge yourself
Whenever possible, read books outside your field of expertise, attend academic lectures or management seminars and tackle "brain teasers" (you might as well get on the Sudoku bandwagon - everyone's doing it). These seemingly irrelevant activities will help you to develop and sustain intellectual thinking skills that you can apply to a variety of situations (read: using sound logic to convince your date to go home with you).
Ask "what-if" questions
When you are dealing with complex issues, regularly ask yourself "what if" questions and visualize the different possible outcomes of the situations you face or the actions you are considering.
Don't act like a know-it-all
The next time you are out to prove you are right, ask yourself if it's worth risking hurting others or being resented. If you are right (and it is important that the record be straight), use a face-saving approach. Don't humiliate the other person by making them wrong. Say, "Oh, I thought a Cosmopolitan had vodka in it, not rum. Maybe I misread my bartender's guide. Why don't we go back to my place and check it out?"
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